The Four Pillars Of A Vibrant Marriage

Sign Up For The Four Pillars Of A Successful Marriage

Days/Hours
Thursday, 7-10 PM
Friday, 9 AM-10 PM
Saturday, 9 AM-10 PM

Location:
Denver, Colorado

Fee:
$495 per couple

Dates
June 24-26, 2010

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2010 seminar schedule

Most people enter marriage filled with love, ecstasy and the highest of hopes. Nothing has greater potential for making us happy than marriage. Yet somewhere along the way the enchantment of marriage turns to disappointment for so many couples. For the last three decades, a startling 50% of marriages end in divorce and many of those that do not end in divorce remain unsatisfying to partners who stay together out of obligation more than devotion. What goes wrong in marriage and what can couples do to fix it?

This Retreat Will Enable You To:

  • Know how to achieve a mature, intimate and satisfying relationship
  • Avoid the negative communication patterns that lead to power struggles and divorce
  • Appreciate how men and women are different
  • Experience compassion and a change of heart towards your partner
  • Become a safe place for your partner to share and grow
  • Resolve conflicts and disagreements in a way both of you feel good about
  • Develop skills in interpersonal communication and dialogue
  • Increase your devotion and know how to build friendship and have fun together
  • Learn the keys to satisfying romance and sex

The purpose of this seminar is to teach you how to build (or rebuild) an enchanting, loving marriage satisfying to both you and your partner. The truth is that, for most couples, intimacy does not come easily but requires a great deal of hard work. The seminar will give you the understanding and tools you need to do that work and create a loving and fulfilling relationship.

How do you describe in words something that has changed your whole life? We learned to deal with situations so that everyone can win. It is an experience that has changed our entire attitude in dealing with our marriage, family and friends.
— Ted & Jane Newcomb




Most Marriages Evolve Through Four Stages

Enchantment: The stage of excitement and romance when we put our best foot forward and minimize our differences. We see each other in an idealized way and experience a profound sense of well-being and aliveness just by being together.

Disillusionment: We lose that “loving feeling” or experience disappointment as we begin to see each other more realistically and become accustomed to living together. Differences are exaggerated and we engage in power struggles to try to get one another to be different. We conclude it is our partner’s fault that we aren’t happy.

Obligation: We settle in for the long haul. It hasn’t worked to try and change each other so we learn to get along by smoothing over differences and not rocking the boat. We have a “functional” relationship that lacks excitement and passion.

Intimacy: We let go of unrealistic expectations and work through conflicts and differences by learning skills in interpersonal dialogue. We accept responsibility for ourselves emotionally and learn to appreciate and even honor our spouse. Our focus turns from “getting” to “giving.”

What You Can Expect

You will learn to surface and work through disagreements that may keep you distant or engaged in self-protection and manipulation. By understanding the hidden themes below your disagreements and learning new rules for working through them you pass through the gateway that leads to intimacy, joy and love.

You will also get to know your partners needs and discover the joy of helping him/her meet these needs. You will stop trying to connect with your partner as you want him/her to connect with you and instead develop skills to respond to your partner in ways that will enrich and bring him/her alive within your marriage. By learning to “give” you will create a deep devotion as well as a mature and satisfying love with your partner. You will have rediscovered the enchantment of your relationship but founded upon a bedrock of love rather than mythology.

During some of the class time you learn core principles in how to build a relationship of intimacy. More importantly, you will spend most of the time with your partner (and occasionally other participants) in processes and exercises in which you have an opportunity to apply and develop mastery in these principles. You will have an opportunity to work through real issues with professional guidance in a safe and trusting environment. The seminar is an opportunity to not only learn and practice new principles but is designed to renew your commitment and aliveness within your relationship.